Who you are is okay. Let’s start there. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. There will be times when people will try their darnedest to convince you that there is something wrong with you.
Tell them to Blow It Out Their Shorts. For me, this usually happens at two different times. Either when I’m feeling really confused, unsure, tired or defeated. And the other seems to happen when I feel excellent. Confident, proud, strong. Yup. In both instances I’m an easy target. My emotions are a sure ping on everyones radar. I wear my heart on my sleeve and don’t do a great job at hiding the way I’m feeling. People love to pounce on the weak. It’s a perfect time for them to feel better about themselves. To get out pent up frustration to prove they aren’t the ones that suck. So, how do we prevent this from happening? How do we avoid the bubble poppers? What can we do to not be noticed by the grumps? I have a few thoughts on this. 1~ Simply ignore. This however takes skill. Even if you can manage to audibly ignore, emotionally and mentally disregarding takes a lot of effort. 2~ Learn to defend ones self. But then you get into arguments, become all fired up and potentially say things you will later regret. Because let’s be honest, this isn’t a scripted movie and most of us are not suave enough to come up with the perfect thing to say in the face of adversity. 3~ Avoid. Don’t call attention to yourself. Hmm. Could I do that? Like really not be noticed by those around me? Yes. I think with a little bit of practice, some self control and the Grace of God, it is possible. I truly believe avoidance is, in this case, the best option. For me at least. So how the heck do we do that? Well, from my experience it’s not easy. Not impossible, just not easy. I have found that the more times I have had my bubble popped, I start to recognize the situations in which it will occur. Then at the point of recognition I simply avoid that interaction. Until I learn the coveted skill of ignoring. Everyone has a different level of tolerance when it comes to bubble poppers. Whatever yours is, you're doing awesome. Continue to be joyful and don’t let others discourage you. Try to see the positive in every situation, even when it seems impossible. I promise you, no matter how wrecked you feel, you will be okay. So let’s get away from those negative situations and re-inflate our bubbles.
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